Helpful Marriage Tips

Learning to express your thoughts and feelings is rough. But HUGE for a relationship. It’s also a great habit to get into. Even if it may seem dumb or embarrassing. Side note- Just because you’ve been together for a while, it does not turn either of you into a mind reader. As a kid, I remember my Mom reading a book about how not expressing your feelings can lead to them coming out in much uglier ways down the road. We should learn to express when we are hurt and let our feelings show. It’s very possible to do without being inconsiderate. It’s always better to talk about someone’s actions rather than the person themselves. Communication is every thought, feeling or act shared verbally and non verbally between two people. It can reduce conflict and increase love. Use your words nicely to solve problems and better understand each other’s point of view. If you need some time to gather your thoughts so you can come up with a better, kinder, way of explaining it to them, then tell your...

As a couple, we need to talk about things. Everything even. So before they turn into arguements or fights, here’s my suggestions: ‘Discussions’ should be pretty flexible. They can be spontaneous or only when problems come up. Or do it regularly to just keep up to date and on the same page. You can hold it daily, weekly, biweekly, monthly or even every few months. Whatever works best for you. You can have them when you’re out for a walk. Or driving the car around the block, or even dragging main. You can do it when kids, or anyone you live with is asleep. You could even try opening or closing it with a prayer. You could try to talk about future activities or goals for each person, or the whole family. But however, and whenever it’s held, you should be focused on listening and understanding each other, and giving loving support. Maybe start off with good things or express gratitude for each other or your blessings. Sensitivity and consideration should be felt by BOTH partners. R...

While it’s okay to consider your own needs in marriage, some people tend to get a bit self centered. They can get so focused on their own self gratification that they forget their partners’. There’s also some couples that can be overpowering negative that it effects their partner. That can aid in spouses becoming overwhelmed and become defensive or withdrawn. That’s when constructive communication becomes almost nonexistent. But! With practice, you can strengthen these skills that can help you to communicate better. You can replace old destructive habits with better ones. Examine how you talk to each other. Sometimes we get too focused on the problems, we forget how we communicate it. Don’t continue things that aren’t working. Instead try: Listening actively- Repeat back what you think they said to make sure you understand correctly. Pay attention to your body language and show them you’re actually paying attention. That means put down your phone, iPod, controller, etc and looking ...

Prayer is an important part of marriage and relationships. Seeking the Lord’s help can help us understand one another, overcome obstacles, and aid in decision making. The Lord can help us change our hearts and our behavior. He can help us be less selfish and rude and fill us with Christlike love. He can help us grow closer to each other. But we need to invite him to help us. And we actually need to want to change. Pray to have your hearts and minds opened. Pray to have your thoughts, minds and actions guided. Pray to have your eyes opened so you can see your companions needs. Pray to become more kind, courteous, humble, forgiving and less selfish. Pray to have strength and motivation to speak and act when needed. Pray for patience, cause it takes time and LOTS of hard work to keep love growing. We need to be constantly working at it. Prayer can help us see our faults more clearly and learn how to not let it effect our marriage. Maybe during a prayer, you can thank the Lord for your...