Setting the Scene
As a couple, we need to talk about things. Everything even. So before they turn into arguements or fights, here’s my suggestions:
‘Discussions’ should be pretty flexible. They can be spontaneous or only when problems come up. Or do it regularly to just keep up to date and on the same page. You can hold it daily, weekly, biweekly, monthly or even every few months. Whatever works best for you.
You can have them when you’re out for a walk. Or driving the car around the block, or even dragging main. You can do it when kids, or anyone you live with is asleep.
You could even try opening or closing it with a prayer. You could try to talk about future activities or goals for each person, or the whole family.
But however, and whenever it’s held, you should be focused on listening and understanding each other, and giving loving support.
Maybe start off with good things or express gratitude for each other or your blessings.
Sensitivity and consideration should be felt by BOTH partners. Relationships thrive on positivity. Especially when expressed through thoughts, words and actions.
The setting and location should be private, NOT during a performance or the movie theatre or even someone’s birthday party.
One person should be front and center as the other responds lovingly. (Not interrupting or looking at their phone.)
Lots of us jump to our “Don’t bother me” attitude, which usually ends up hurting the other person.
It takes a HUGE amount of personal sacrifice to talk to someone when conditions are better for the other person. Lots of times we have to get rid of our own personal convenience to invest our time into the other person. It’s not easy. But with practice, you will get there.
So, be the kind of partner who’s willing to take the time to available. Train yourself to think of their communication needs before yours.
What you read is my personal opinion. Hope you enjoy and if you have any feedback, please write it in the comments below. And if you like what you read, please follow my page.
‘Discussions’ should be pretty flexible. They can be spontaneous or only when problems come up. Or do it regularly to just keep up to date and on the same page. You can hold it daily, weekly, biweekly, monthly or even every few months. Whatever works best for you.
You can have them when you’re out for a walk. Or driving the car around the block, or even dragging main. You can do it when kids, or anyone you live with is asleep.
You could even try opening or closing it with a prayer. You could try to talk about future activities or goals for each person, or the whole family.
But however, and whenever it’s held, you should be focused on listening and understanding each other, and giving loving support.
Maybe start off with good things or express gratitude for each other or your blessings.
The setting and location should be private, NOT during a performance or the movie theatre or even someone’s birthday party.
One person should be front and center as the other responds lovingly. (Not interrupting or looking at their phone.)
Lots of us jump to our “Don’t bother me” attitude, which usually ends up hurting the other person.
It takes a HUGE amount of personal sacrifice to talk to someone when conditions are better for the other person. Lots of times we have to get rid of our own personal convenience to invest our time into the other person. It’s not easy. But with practice, you will get there.
So, be the kind of partner who’s willing to take the time to available. Train yourself to think of their communication needs before yours.
What you read is my personal opinion. Hope you enjoy and if you have any feedback, please write it in the comments below. And if you like what you read, please follow my page.
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